Everybody's Doin' It - Reaching for More
It may seem obvious to say it but the internal desire of all persons is to "have a better life". To improve, to make more money, to have a good time, to have good friends. All of these are uniquely personal and subjective and yet, this is a system of operation which is observable and functional within each of us.
We all have longings and wishes and fears. We all have internal drives, just spinning us along and creating the friction of our lives. We can get pretty tangled up when we get focused on and encounter opposing points of view to our own.
Our confusion comes when we attempt to resolve our internal conflicts and questions with information and guidance from outside of us. Which, as a point of fact, we have now made into an amazing and expanding national past time! Reality TV, strange dating shows, personal coaches, seminars, new books, everyone is giving and getting advice these days. We all do this. We all read, explore, ask, seek, experiences outside of us to validate our "position" in the world. Or, put another way, to validate the "inside" of us. WE use this informaton to help us feel better. Or to beat ourselves up.
Which, of course means we are all experts at minding each other's business. Oh, we LOVE to give advice! We love to tell each other what to do, what happened to us when we did that.. Ask a woman what childbirth was like and you're likely to be listening for a while!
We are busy forming opinions and decisions and conclusions all day every day on a myriad of subjects. Yet we forget that we have the power within us to choose for the one thing that will make any difference in our experience. We get to choose how we will feel.
It never goes away. We always have it. We often pretend we don't have it. We say "oh it was just so devastating." or "I had no choice but to..." Action choices can and do come upon us as we move through this physical life which once set in motion cannot be avoided. But within us, in the one thing in our world that we have utter and complete control of, it seems to many of us we are helpless.
It seems as if we cannot "help" but feel the ways in which we do.
This is not to say that we do not encounter circumstances and events which cause us to have to make choices we would rather not make. It is to say, however, that we can begin to reverse the trend by learning to choose for those thoughts, feelings and emotions which allow us to feel good within ourselves about ourselves as we think and feel them. It means choosing for ourselves and our sense of feeling good first..
Charity begins at home. Finding the inner place where it is safe to be who you are without judgment or self condemnation is the only possible way toward that innately instinctively and viscerally known "better life" which calls each of us.
We cannot get there by arguing. We cannot get there by making ourselves or others wrong about anything. We cannot get there by finding things to push against any more than we can get there by snapping our fingers.
The only way out is through. In order to know that new world, we have to travel the emotional intuitive empowered road to that new world.
So what does it mean to have goals to be a better person if you spend all of your time in a funk because you're mad at your boss? It means you get to have more time to feel lousy and forget what mattered to you. Not because your boss is a good guy. Maybe he's a real pinhead. But because your focus and your time and your emotional energy and experience are your LIFE and when you spend you life energy this way you create more patterns of life energy that will feel like that.
Just another habit. Only this one's a habit of mind and everybody's doing it.
How many times a day do people complain to you? How often do you complain yourself? Or, even better, complain about yourself to yourself!?
Clever little game, that.
The only thing between each of us and what we really want is how we feel about it.
Everything else is a done deal.
So don't get too caught up in doing all that work in the world of action to make it all happen if you still haven't found a way to feel good about whatever it is you're doing. It's wasted energy.
Once we line up the internal game, everything else plays like clockwork.
Why? Because we've given up trying to make it work and we're finally letting the infinite intelligence that is life orchestrate it for us, as it did our birth and our life, when we stop to think about it... Amazing, isn't it? Do you remember the thoughts you had to have to make THAT happen? No? Well, then I guess you get the point.
what good is all the effort towards a "good outcome" which is pointed in the wrong direction? Our focus will build and expand upon whatever we decide to feed it.
What are you feeding your focus today?
Whatever you feed it will grow and expand. The more you focus on whatever you focus on the bigger it gets. Soon it has substance. Then it begins to happen to people you know... Then it happens to you... This is how focus works.
Watch people around you. It's easy to see it. How many women do you know who still have that same type of husband three husbands later? Or men and vice versa?
How many businesses have used these ideas of focus and desire and need to create huge profits for themselves in a world hungry to be "satisfied" from without?
There isn't any part that doesn't match. There isn't anything "out of the ordinary" because that isn't possible. It's all exactly what it is as it is and every part of it is exactly matched up to every other part. If it's not in your world, it isn't a match to you. If it is, it is.
Not because you are bad or evil or wrong headed or judged. Only because you, for whatever reason, have come to be focused and vibrationally matched with the essence of whatever that is.
Fear is a powerful thing. When we use it as a culture to terrorize ourselves, literally and everyone is talking about the danger and pain and horror of it all we all end up paralyzed.
The price we pay for giving up our own well being is that we are now vibrationally and emotionally and energetically aligned with something less than what is good for us.
The good news is, we all have a way out if we ever decide to use it. We can decide, for ourselves, within our own thoughts that it is okay for us to be okay. That we are going to feel okay and always work to do our best to feel okay no matter what. When we do that we become our own uplifter.
When we do that, we "tip the scales" in our own favor. We train ourselves to have a tendency to look for and see the best we can find in any situation. Our focus is softened and sweetened by new joyful experiences as we go. We step into the "flow".
We cannot rely on others to carry us through life and into our best adventures. We cannot wait to be told what to do and how to do it.
Our children are extremely clear in this area where we are so vague. They are a new breed of human who has complied thus far with a huge amount of social pressure and conditioning. Who, by virtue of their exposure to so much external noise have learned to see right past it. Our children are ADD and ADHD as a means to an end. They can drown our the noise of our "media" and "news" and "fear and loathing" with a speed of communication that is beyond our own.
It's a slip knot.
We get the chance to find our own way no matter what else goes on around us, but if we fall for the trap of responding only to what we observe instead of choosing how we will feel first and observing second, we are doomed to follow the pack, live the nightmare instead of the dream and wonder what went wrong.
Focus is a powerful thing.
We have all the power. Some of us know it. Most of us would rather look anywhere than to ourselves for the answers we seek. Yet it is within each of us that all the answers reside.
Which is why, when you learn this art, you can observe people in all sorts of interactions without feeling a need to jump in and "fix" things. It's all working itself out, that they too, are following their best call to action they can find in the moment.
It's the evil twin of trusting yourself to know what to do and to answer your own questions: you must therefore assume that everyone else is capable of, and busy doing, the same thing.
From that point of view there really isn't much left to push against. So you might as well go find something that feels like that "better life" to focus on...
Take a stroll into your imagination, off into the future with your best vision of your life and soak it all in. Now that's a good use of focus!
We all have longings and wishes and fears. We all have internal drives, just spinning us along and creating the friction of our lives. We can get pretty tangled up when we get focused on and encounter opposing points of view to our own.
Our confusion comes when we attempt to resolve our internal conflicts and questions with information and guidance from outside of us. Which, as a point of fact, we have now made into an amazing and expanding national past time! Reality TV, strange dating shows, personal coaches, seminars, new books, everyone is giving and getting advice these days. We all do this. We all read, explore, ask, seek, experiences outside of us to validate our "position" in the world. Or, put another way, to validate the "inside" of us. WE use this informaton to help us feel better. Or to beat ourselves up.
Which, of course means we are all experts at minding each other's business. Oh, we LOVE to give advice! We love to tell each other what to do, what happened to us when we did that.. Ask a woman what childbirth was like and you're likely to be listening for a while!
We are busy forming opinions and decisions and conclusions all day every day on a myriad of subjects. Yet we forget that we have the power within us to choose for the one thing that will make any difference in our experience. We get to choose how we will feel.
It never goes away. We always have it. We often pretend we don't have it. We say "oh it was just so devastating." or "I had no choice but to..." Action choices can and do come upon us as we move through this physical life which once set in motion cannot be avoided. But within us, in the one thing in our world that we have utter and complete control of, it seems to many of us we are helpless.
It seems as if we cannot "help" but feel the ways in which we do.
This is not to say that we do not encounter circumstances and events which cause us to have to make choices we would rather not make. It is to say, however, that we can begin to reverse the trend by learning to choose for those thoughts, feelings and emotions which allow us to feel good within ourselves about ourselves as we think and feel them. It means choosing for ourselves and our sense of feeling good first..
Charity begins at home. Finding the inner place where it is safe to be who you are without judgment or self condemnation is the only possible way toward that innately instinctively and viscerally known "better life" which calls each of us.
We cannot get there by arguing. We cannot get there by making ourselves or others wrong about anything. We cannot get there by finding things to push against any more than we can get there by snapping our fingers.
The only way out is through. In order to know that new world, we have to travel the emotional intuitive empowered road to that new world.
So what does it mean to have goals to be a better person if you spend all of your time in a funk because you're mad at your boss? It means you get to have more time to feel lousy and forget what mattered to you. Not because your boss is a good guy. Maybe he's a real pinhead. But because your focus and your time and your emotional energy and experience are your LIFE and when you spend you life energy this way you create more patterns of life energy that will feel like that.
Just another habit. Only this one's a habit of mind and everybody's doing it.
How many times a day do people complain to you? How often do you complain yourself? Or, even better, complain about yourself to yourself!?
Clever little game, that.
The only thing between each of us and what we really want is how we feel about it.
Everything else is a done deal.
So don't get too caught up in doing all that work in the world of action to make it all happen if you still haven't found a way to feel good about whatever it is you're doing. It's wasted energy.
Once we line up the internal game, everything else plays like clockwork.
Why? Because we've given up trying to make it work and we're finally letting the infinite intelligence that is life orchestrate it for us, as it did our birth and our life, when we stop to think about it... Amazing, isn't it? Do you remember the thoughts you had to have to make THAT happen? No? Well, then I guess you get the point.
what good is all the effort towards a "good outcome" which is pointed in the wrong direction? Our focus will build and expand upon whatever we decide to feed it.
What are you feeding your focus today?
Whatever you feed it will grow and expand. The more you focus on whatever you focus on the bigger it gets. Soon it has substance. Then it begins to happen to people you know... Then it happens to you... This is how focus works.
Watch people around you. It's easy to see it. How many women do you know who still have that same type of husband three husbands later? Or men and vice versa?
How many businesses have used these ideas of focus and desire and need to create huge profits for themselves in a world hungry to be "satisfied" from without?
There isn't any part that doesn't match. There isn't anything "out of the ordinary" because that isn't possible. It's all exactly what it is as it is and every part of it is exactly matched up to every other part. If it's not in your world, it isn't a match to you. If it is, it is.
Not because you are bad or evil or wrong headed or judged. Only because you, for whatever reason, have come to be focused and vibrationally matched with the essence of whatever that is.
Fear is a powerful thing. When we use it as a culture to terrorize ourselves, literally and everyone is talking about the danger and pain and horror of it all we all end up paralyzed.
The price we pay for giving up our own well being is that we are now vibrationally and emotionally and energetically aligned with something less than what is good for us.
The good news is, we all have a way out if we ever decide to use it. We can decide, for ourselves, within our own thoughts that it is okay for us to be okay. That we are going to feel okay and always work to do our best to feel okay no matter what. When we do that we become our own uplifter.
When we do that, we "tip the scales" in our own favor. We train ourselves to have a tendency to look for and see the best we can find in any situation. Our focus is softened and sweetened by new joyful experiences as we go. We step into the "flow".
We cannot rely on others to carry us through life and into our best adventures. We cannot wait to be told what to do and how to do it.
Our children are extremely clear in this area where we are so vague. They are a new breed of human who has complied thus far with a huge amount of social pressure and conditioning. Who, by virtue of their exposure to so much external noise have learned to see right past it. Our children are ADD and ADHD as a means to an end. They can drown our the noise of our "media" and "news" and "fear and loathing" with a speed of communication that is beyond our own.
It's a slip knot.
We get the chance to find our own way no matter what else goes on around us, but if we fall for the trap of responding only to what we observe instead of choosing how we will feel first and observing second, we are doomed to follow the pack, live the nightmare instead of the dream and wonder what went wrong.
Focus is a powerful thing.
We have all the power. Some of us know it. Most of us would rather look anywhere than to ourselves for the answers we seek. Yet it is within each of us that all the answers reside.
Which is why, when you learn this art, you can observe people in all sorts of interactions without feeling a need to jump in and "fix" things. It's all working itself out, that they too, are following their best call to action they can find in the moment.
It's the evil twin of trusting yourself to know what to do and to answer your own questions: you must therefore assume that everyone else is capable of, and busy doing, the same thing.
From that point of view there really isn't much left to push against. So you might as well go find something that feels like that "better life" to focus on...
Take a stroll into your imagination, off into the future with your best vision of your life and soak it all in. Now that's a good use of focus!
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